This day, this weekend actually, is going to go in the record books as a low point as a mommy. Bear with me on my musings about sleep props, hopefully I don't offend anyone. This is also going to be a rambling, long complaining post but I don't do too many of those, so just put up with me. Please.
So Kenley has slept with a paci since she was a baby. I wanted to get rid of it around the time she turned one, but I was pregnant and she slept so good, and who was it hurting, really? Then Parker was born (not a good time to give up a paci), then I just had excuse after excuse until I ran out of excuses and decided it was time to break her habit. The truth is that I *might* have considered just riding it out until she was ready to give it up, but Parker's turning into an addict as well and I am not going to go through this again. So Thursday we all went to the zoo and "gave them to the baby monkeys" AKA threw them in the trash when she wasn't looking - no going back. She was so cheerful going into it that we knew she didn't really get it, and sure enough she didn't. As soon as we got into the car she asked for one, we reminded her that we just gave them to the baby monkeys, and she gets this quivery lip and goes, "But I want them back!" Thursday's "nap" was horrible - she didn't sleep. Today, oh my goodness. Picture this - two kids crying in their beds for TWO HOURS - neither of them take their afternoon nap. My plan to take them to the park to wear them out every day is foiled because James' car is acting up so he needs to take mine. I am homebound with two heartbroken babies. Kenley keeps asking me, "Where my nap go?" (Nap is her word for paci) and sometimes I say, "Where did they go?" and she asks hopefully, "Under my pillow?" and I say, "No, we took them to the baby monkeys because you're a big girl now," and her face just crumbles. I feel so bad for her, seriously it breaks my heart.
So I knew tonight would be bad. Both kids cranky from no naps, Parker falls asleep no problem. Kenley is crying and tantruming at the drop of a hat, and I just cannot take it. Plus my friend offered to have her daughter babysit for an hour or two tonight (before bedtime) while we went to this recipe exchange, and I was so looking forward to getting out, made my soup and everything, and then she calls and she's sick so I can't go because I don't have my dumb car. So that made me feel even more sorry for myself. James is at work all day and all night today and tomorrow, and I just feel overwhelmed by the difference in what I have to do versus what I want to do. I don't want to read freaking Zamp in My Lamp with Kenley crying because I inadvertently touched the pull tab to move the Nureau in the Bureau. I don't want to let her brush her teeth and cry because she didn't get to drink water out of my hand. I don't want to put her in her pajamas or ANYTHING. I just want to leave, go to Target, curl up in bed with a magazine, whatever. Just put Kenley in her room and let her kick and scream and tantrum, but instead I have to deal with it and I DO NOT WANT TO! My patience is seriously shot. I'm mean and snappish and don't even want to deal with this. So I'm trying to put Kenley to bed early and she's crying and throwing fits about everything, won't go to sleep, and finally I just burst into tears. Totally freaks Kenley out, she's going, "What's wrong, Mommy? It's okay," and comforting me and patting me. Totally more caring and affectionate than I am. So I just tell her I'm sad about the pacis too, and I just want her to go to sleep, and she promises she will, and she does. What an angel.
I am discouraged that she might drop her afternoon nap altogether now, I am so not ready for that. I don't think I can take another day like today all by myself. But really I am just mad at myself for letting her go so long with the paci. It was just selfish on my part. It's not like I was doing her a favor, like she'd thank me for another twelve months of sucking on a pacifier. I have learned this: the longer you wait to change anything sleep-related, the harder it is. On mommy and kid. And I feel bad that I'm putting her through this because I didn't feel like doing it earlier, because it was inconvenient for me. Seriously, I feel so selfish and mean right now. If you can't put up with the bad sleep habit for the long haul, do your kid a favor and break it early. Her sad little face... oh, I just can't tell you.
AND, everyone is just telling me stupid stories that do not make me feel any better! Oh yeah, when I did that my kid never napped again. Oh, I would never do that until my kid was READY. Oh, I would never give my kid a paci in the first place. Oh, my sister took my nephew's paci away and he turned into a thumb sucker. Don't leave me any of those kinds of comments on the blog, seriously. I only want to know about it if you have a story where the kid was a big-time addict and it only took a rough couple of days and then it was fine.
AND, like I am not already feeling like world's worst mom, we drive by Taco Bell this morning and Kenley sings out, like she always does, "Bye Taco Bell! See you soon!" I suck.